Meeting virtual friends in reality

12 Oct

When I became pregnant five years ago, I explored the internet for resources to read, signed up in many websites for newsletters regarding healthy pregnancy and healthy baby, read and re-read the weekly embryo developments, checked out the exercises, diets and basically had more information in me than about being pregnant than any data warehousing site could have.

I also joined a community called It was an amazing website. I met many pregnant woman there who posted their views, questions, shared their opinions and basically supported each other during those precious 40 weeks of the most wonderful time in a woman’s life. One such woman was Lady M. She was from India too like me. And we shared so many things. Our joys, our worries, our sorrows, our life, our work, we started sharing many other things than just pregnancy and baby stuff over E-Mail. But she was a person I met over the internet. We did not make any dates to meet up. After all, we both had families, duties, and life and work and no one even thought of meeting. We were like each other’s diaries. And moreover we knew the perils of meeting online friends in reality.

So, life went on for a few years. Then we thought we should check out each other’s voices. So, we wished each other on birthdays, anniversaries, kids’ birthdays, etc. And slowly the phone calls minimized, the E Mails minimized too, with just a note here and there saying, “hey, you missed my kid’s birthday” and , “oops, I am so sorry”. And things shriveled up to shorter text messages too at a certain stage.

Life just got too hectic. There was work pressure, our own careers, work-life balance, kids, home and well, we just got too busy. But we remembered each other and followed up each other well with regular pic updates and generallife updates.

I received a phone call once, “We are planning to come down to Chennai from Bangalore, maybe we can try to meet”. I was excited. At last, we were going to meet up with each other. When I shared this exciting feeling with another friend, she said, “Are you sure you want to meet her? You know, it is not really safe to meet someone you know in the virtual world. What if she turns out to be a trickster? What if your safety is at peril”?

You know, sometimes, you have to follow your heart without any second thoughts and I am happy I did that, that day. With some people, you know it is the right decision. One should listen for the signs.

She has two sons, one is DDS’s age, the other a bit younger. The kids had an awesome evening, playing, fighting, making up, playing again, chatting, complaining, and generally having fun. M, her husband, my husband,my mom and I too had a very interesting evening. We were glad we all met finally.

And when they were all leaving, the sudden realisation hit me that I was meeting them for the first time, but the way the evening went, it felt like old friends meeting up after a long time and generally having so much of catching up to do. There were no initial apprehensions, confusions on what to speak and what to not, kids bonding with each other or not? Well, there was absolutely no time to think or act, it was just a blur which zoomed away so soon. I am glad the day happened 🙂

We spent about four hours or less, but it felt like hardly an hour, Einstein rightly said about relativity being, “Five minutes in the company you like, but an hour in the company you don’t for the same short span of time”.

So, I have shared a few pics we took on the day.

Sharing a private moment

Sharing a private moment

Something beckons us...

Something beckons us...

Best friends forever

Best friends forever

We are good boys

We are good boys

Have you had any such experiences of meeting virtual friends in reality and feeling like old friends meeting up after a long time? Have you felt sometime that certain friendships like these are too precious? Felt that you meet certain people in strange ways and feel like you were destined to know them? And felt at random odd moments that life is benevolent?


7 Responses to “Meeting virtual friends in reality”

  1. Eva October 13, 2010 at 12:35 am #

    P, you are jsut a wonderful awesome person! How could you not get along with one of us, your moms. If only DH would let me travel abroad with DS. I think it’s going to take another year before he’s comfy. Then, you better clear me off a spot on the couch. We’ve got some catching up to do!

    • The Alchemist October 14, 2010 at 10:53 am #

      The spare bedroom is fit for occupation 🙂
      Would love to meet up with you..!!

  2. Sowmya October 13, 2010 at 6:15 am #

    Nice blog Purnima. All your blogs are quite interesting to read!

    • The Alchemist October 14, 2010 at 10:41 am #

      Thanks Sowmya. Keep visiting 🙂

  3. RP October 17, 2010 at 1:22 pm #

    I too had a chance of meeting someone whom I never met before. We both met & had a chat, then I said “YES” and that someone became by better-half. Now she talks, I listen and life seems perfectly balanced 😀

    Anyway, Urs shud be a nice experience on meeting someone like this!… Good blog.

    • The_Alchemist October 19, 2010 at 11:09 am #

      Oh wow 🙂 How romantic for you!!!
      Yes, it was a memorable experience of meeting my friend and her family. I had the best time in the world that evening.


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